► WHAT OTHER PEOPLE’S ATTITUDES BOTTHER YOU MORE? Have you ever thought you could behave in the same way? Other people are our mirror. What we don’t like on others say something about ourselves. We don’t like to see in others what we don’t wish to see in ourselves; that is, what irritates us in others is often something that we have within ourselves, but we are not aware. The attitude of the other person makes us aware of this behaviour that we have hidden within ourselves.

         We don’t like to be reminded of it and that's why we get angry. We identify with the other person, even if it’s very difficult to admit. We are obviously not exactly like the other person. But if you, for example, gets angry with a colleague who is irresponsible at work, this can bring you some awareness of how you are irresponsible with your life and your development.

         Therefore, we project on others. This is the psychological mechanism by which we wish avoid awareness of our problems, projecting our own characteristics in others. Both problems as well as qualities can be projected.

          ► WHAT CHARACTERISTICS DO YOU APPRECIATE THE MOST IN OTHERS? You probably have these characteristics in you, but maybe you are not aware of them. You realize and appreciate the other individual it matches with you.

          ► WHAT ATTITUDES DO YOU THINK OTHERS DON’T LIKE IN YOU? We sometimes only see problems in other individuals. We can judge others more harshly than we judge ourselves. Isn’t that what happens in most cases? When others don’t do something, we think they are lazy. When we don’t do something, it's because we're busy.

         When others talk about our faults, we think they are attacking us. When we talk about the faults of others, we are helping them by offering constructive feedback. When others say things that displease us, they are rude; pushy. When we are the ones saying something that displeases others, they are fastidious; proud.

         On the one hand we shouldn’t be too squeamish, but otherwise, wouldn’t it be more prudent to be cautious when we speak? We can say anything; but to reach a positive outcome, we need to watch out how we speak.

         It’s impressive how some people can position themselves in a way that will enable them to take advantage of his neighbour. WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THAT?